Life in Venezuela has been nothing like you would think it is in the past years. Many of you know that we´ve been going through some pretty tough political and economical situation, but lately it has been so bad that I have opted for not speaking about it here, and just live this space as it is, my own little space for happiness, thoughts, love and family... my mommyworld. This is also pretty much the way I like to keep my household, free of the terribles that happen outside our door, but sometimes it´s impossible to not talk about it, or to try to ignore.
We have always been know for being happy people, for being a country full of opportunities, laughter and color. We have the best beaches because the Caribbeann Sea is kinda like ours, some pretty amazing mountains, waterfalls, we even have the Amazon... and to top it all we have more oil than Dubai... it was so good that Venezuelans had never immigrated to other countries, life has always been kind to us. Unfortunately, and to make a long story short... We´ve had the worst government possible for the last 15 years, a lot of people are calling it a Dictatorship, corruption is ridiculous, insecurity is absurd, poverty is growing by the minute, basic salary is as low as 10$ a month; the worst is our latest problem which is scarcity of basic goods... when you go to a supermarket, you will find half of what you are looking for, and if there is something like milk, rice, oil, diapers, corn flower, shampoo or toilet papers you will surely spend three hours in line or otherwise buy it at 10 times the price to contraband.
Still... if you have read my blog before you could not tell this by reading my posts, or by seeing the laughter in my girls faces, and this is not me... I think all Venezuelans have the capacity to see the good in the bad, and to make it a good day no matter what. All this is getting a lot more difficult lately, and it bothers me that children have to grow up listening to everybody they know worry about the future and seeing many many friends and family leave our beautiful country in search of a more peaceful living. But this is were we are, this is home, and we have not taken the decision to leave... and so everyday we try to make it the best day, we try to see our beautiful blue skies instead of the faces of the politicians that have taken over our country, and we watch the Disney channel instead of the news, and we go to the beach in spite of not wanting to.... and we know it is a blessing to be able to enjoy our Sundays lunches at my parents. I call and I will call my sister every single day a hundred times to talk about the same things over and over again... but mostly to reassure ourselves that yes, we are doing a good job, and that staying is what we want to do... and so day by day we know we live the life we want to live, and ours is beautiful, and it is a blessing!
As for my girls... well life is not easy, we are living in a world of immediate gratification that is undermining our ability to wait, to enjoy, to imagine, to create.... and maybe living in a country like this will help me, raise optimistic strong women capable of adapting to change, of creating their own happiness without help from others, of being able to enjoy life as a gift, and being the smile on somebody else´s face! And lastly being proud of who they are and what they are!
I don´t know if any of this made any sense to you... but I needed it today, so thanks for listening because now I am proud of being Venezuelan, once again!
Here are some pics of us, living without giving it much thought.... our life in pink as I call it!
Because in this corner of the world I get to enjoy this view every sunday...
And we find baby guacharacas in our rooms, which then in turn think that whoever found her is her mom....
and this, hug, this kiss.... and having my mom always there for us... priceless. If she only knew how big a force she is to us!.. maybe she knows, we´ve told her a million times!
my support and my inspiration... my team mates... all of that in this one picture!
This... this is the Venezuela I see... only this one!
Hope you have a wonderful week!
There are two times a year were I become overly sentimental... during Christmas and at the end of the school year. During Christmas it all begins with the twinkly lights, and the feeling of love and warmth that invades my heart, and my house... I just enjoy watching my girls be girls and seeing my family be a family... It´s like the world is this little perfect place, were everybody loves one another, and anything and everything revolves around family... Christmas simply makes my heart dance and sing!
During this time of the year is a different feeling, is the feeling of not wanting my girls to grow up, of wanting to keep them all three on my lap forever, of wanting life to stand still just for a little while longer. I see Ale moving on to seventh grade, she doesn´t need me to do her hair in the mornings any more, her friends tend to be a little more exciting than us, and well she is twelve, she thinks she has it all figured out by now, There is Emi, growing up and always my sweet girl.. but still I know she is growing, and then our Ari, who will attend her sisters´ ¨big girls´ school this coming year, and even though she is our baby, well... if she is going to her sisters´ school I guess she is not that little anymore. And the emotion begins...
I think I become emotional because my girls are the ones that with their curiosity and wonder make me see the world as a much better place a beautiful place full of colors and possibilities. With their love, innocence and honesty they teach me and re teach me again and again what really matters in life. And as I age, as I start to see wrinkles in my face, is the sparkle in their eyes that keep me young, is their beauty inside and out that make me beautiful, is their laughter that makes me laugh... is their hearts that make me love... it´s them, is being their mom what makes me the person I am and the person I want to be. They make me believe in unicorns, they make me want to climb on a rainbow and find the pot of gold... they just make me happy!
God is definitely amazing, he gives us the chance to relive our childhoods by giving us children, we get to do the things we loved the most again and also to do them better, and maybe we are also able to do the things we didn´t do through them... And so I sit here, and I just want to put on a flowery dress and dance to a happy tune, put a flower on my head, and lay on the grass with my girls only to see what shapes the clouds make for us today! Because really... I can´t seem to find anything more important than this!
I think she just saw an unicorn!
We are in the last two week of school here and I am feeling a little overwhelmed.... or maybe very overwhelmed! The girls are tired, I am exhausted, mornings are shorter, uniforms seem to disappear every morning, there are a trillion things to do in the house, out of the house, during the week and on the weekends... so many things that I think my writing muse decided to go on a hunger strike and I haven´t seen her lately! Oh and add to that that am potty training Ari, which went so smoothly that now she won´t do number two and am having the worst time as she will not go to the bathroom, she is so strong willed that she will hold it in for days until she can no more and then it hurts so bad that the cycle starts again... it´s pretty scary for me, and I get really nervous, but hopefully this too will pass soon, I hope!
It´s a good thing that somehow, in the middle of the chaos God always finds his way of saying ¨stop.. breath... go on!!!¨
We are officially done with any type of competition and called it a wrap this weekend with Emi´s Flamenco show which was amazing!!! She danced beautifully, she danced with her soul and her imagination.... and oh my just looking at her eyes sparkle was a show in its own! It was a good thing that this time I decided to leave the camera behind and trust the academy´s photographer... I enjoyed the show, was able to concentrate on every move Emi made, and once I got home I took pictures more relaxed!
Here are some of the moments that in between all the rush in our lives, I was able to stop, breath, look... open my eyes and take in all the gloriousness of the ordinary in our lives. Because waking up with a baby in my bed is magic, is love... is life...
And seeing my Dad celebrate his day with all his grandchildren, even though there was one that didn´t want to smile, is a blessing!!!
Seeing my oldest lead the way for her baby sister makes my heart rejoice!
And giving the girls one extra lap around our block once we get home just to hear their laugh is priceless and worth all the traffic I had just endured minutes before!
And then again... God´s present at the end of the day... magnificent!
Have a great rest of the week... and stop and look around! Don´t forget to share what you are up to at your corner of the world, and make some new friends.. life is better when shared!
While in most parts of the world school is already out, we still have about three more weeks to go... and I would say this is the hardest month of the school year. We are all tired, in fact, I am exhausted, there is a lot of drama going around with all the sports competitions, final exams, and end of year plays... our schedule seem to run wild with a million extra things to do, and by the time the girls are all tucked in at night, my battery lasts like one more minute and am off. But then again, as tiresome as it is, it is the time of the year were we see all our effort smiling back at us with a proud smile of your daughter receiving a medal, or her eyes reaching not wanting to reach yours if she didn´t win, and that hug when she does give in and wants to hug you and not let go... or Emi´s standing up high tall and beautiful dressed as a bailaora, believing that all dreams can and maybe will come true!
Yesterday was Emi´s final dress rehearsal before the real thing... and they had a photoshoot so that the day of the play that stress is over. Is a good thing that Emi´s flamenco teacher knows am the mom with the camera and the blog, and let me sneak in behind the real photographer!!! I was able to take some pretty great shots but because I was running late and with mi little Ari on tug, I left the camera in the car, so I did my best with my iphone...
This last shot is the cutest... here is my baby, always there, observing, watching closely, listening.. learning, and I am sure dreaming!
Hope you all have a great weekend, and remember to never stop dreaming!
On the next to last post ¨life 101¨ I talked about how life was not really about winning, how life is hard and a lot of times unfair, and how in some way I was happy that my girls, specially Alessia, was (as much as it hurts) learning that so very important lesson by loosing at her last gymnastics competition.
After Ale´s gymnastics competition Emi had her turn in the field, unfortunately this time was not her day either. This year she is the youngest in her category having girls up to two years older than her, so in days where a lot of schools are competing there is a good chance that she´ll have it rough! The thing is that for Emi, winning is not an issue, she is really happy by just being there and giving her best shot, her all, everytime, everyday, at anything she does!
As I always say... my daughter.. my teacher! Emi with her sweet and brave way is a life lesson all by its own...
On Friday, Ale competed again.. we were nervous, and as much as I said that it wasn´t all about winning, that we don´t always get what we want, or what we deserve, well Ale...she needs to win, she is like that! So not wining this time would have been a pretty big deal for her. Thankfully... she did great!!!!! And I think that maybe more than happy I was relived, I didn´t want to go over life 101 with her again! haha And she was happy... over the moon proud and happy!
Friends do definitely make winning even better!
And then of course there is Ari, always there, my willing companion, my not so very silent witness of all the miles driven, of all the laughs in the car, the ups and the downs of having big sisters, always smiling and singing probably unaware of any big event, because for her everything is equally exciting. This little one, doesn´t care about winning or loosing, her love and awe for her sisters is completely unconditional she doesn´t know the difference between first or last place, she just knows how good it feels to have a family that feels, that sings, that dances, that cries.... a family with two sisters that just make her laugh!
This weekend was Ale´s 2nd gymnastics competition this year. The first, she did great and won two silver medals, one bronze and her team won gold all around! Yeap, that is pretty great! and it sure makes for a great weekend, and a reason to celebrate... ¨life is good, is easy and fun!¨ But then life comes around and pitches a curved ball.... and this time Ale fell off the beam which is where she does best, after that, she got really nervous and lost her concentration, which made her land terrible in her floor routine, after that.. it was like a snowball getting bigger and bigger. It was so hard seeing her hold back her tears through out the whole thing, I just wanted to go hold her and protect her, just get my little girl and come home and rock her to sleep. When it was over, she cried and cired... and cried, she was mad, she was frustrated, she was angry... I tried to calm her down a million ways, until I realized that maybe loosing was the medal we all as a family had to earn, the medal of standing back up, and not letting a bad day ruin a whole year of excitement, fun and friends. And learning that a medal does not define us, what defines us is something much greater, more sublime, shinier, but we don´t wear it around our necks as a prize, is something we work for our entire lives.
Life is not about winning, life is not perfect, we all know there will be times when even though we deserve something we will not get it. Life is not fair either, it is not easy, and the sooner they understand this the better for them! The secret is to celebrate life, the happy moments, the giggles with your friends, the nights with your family, the little things... not the medals! I don´t want them to value themselves for winning, but by the size of their heart, and for the smile they put on the people around them. That´s whats important, that is what matters when the sun comes down.
For this, the only thing that I as a mom will strive for, is to raise three women who are exceptional at heart, my hope for them is in their spirit, in their character, in their hearts. This is where I want them to be the best at, exceptional... amazing! I want them to strive to achieve their dreams, which ever dream that is, I want them to put their heart and soul into being good, kind, happy and brave girls, I want them to love with all their might and I want them to be loved. And then I want them to know that in my heart they are by far the most perfect beautiful girls that I always dreamed of!
So Ale, you just learned one great life lesson... keep smiling baby you are doing great!
As for me... my shiniest medal, the one I strive to earn every single second of every single day... is the sparkle in their eyes.... this sparkle, this twinkle in their eyes, only this I ask of God...
Oh... and next competition is this Friday! so pray please!!!! haha
Yesterday I came across a quote that said: ¨life whispers... listen closely¨. I loved it so much that I put it up on instagram. Life whispers... so true, we just have to listen closely which is not really easy with all the noise coming from every single thing in our lives. Yesterday for instance was a pretty loud day, there is the usual stress of living in Venezuela, beautiful yes, but lately so complicated and stressful. People get trapped in useless conversations about how we are constantly hitting rock bottom and how we could turn our lives and country around, the constant question of how are we supposed to keep on living here, and still not wanting to ever leave the country that we love so much... On top of all this taking up a lot of space in my mind, it finally rained, which is good, but traffic in Caracas goes wild with a single drop of rain, so we didn´t make it in time to Ale´s gymnastics and had to turn around pick Emi up from track and field training and head home to arrive almost at the same time as if we had made it to the gym. When I got home, I found Ari unaware of the world around her, in her own little birthday party for her toy friends....
That was all I needed to stop and listen closely.... because I know that it doesn´t get any better than this. Life is sweet, it is a constant celebration of love, it is the smile on your child´s face celebrating a birthday party for her toys, and then is your turn to blow the candle and suddenly you are also two and nothing else matters... and all you had to do was listen closely! Isn´t it wonderful?
And then there are times when life speaks ouy loud and so very clear just in case that when it whispered you were not listening. This morning... My stepson got his first job offer, and he immediately sent me and his dad a picture via whattsapp. I was sooo happy to hear this, but what made my day was what he told me afterwards...(I took a screen shot of our little conversation, hope he doesn´t mind)
For those of you who don´t speak Spanish, the important part says that he is super thankful for everything that I have done for him, that he listens to me more than I could ever imagine... and that also I should know that he loves me like if I was his mom! ... Then of course I cried tears of happiness!
Raising a child that is not yours is not easy, it has its ups and downs.... the downs can be very low, but when you get rewarded like this... oh my, I think I cannot put into words the goodness of it all! Today I was reassured that this little part of this family´s puzzle, is good, it was hard earned.... because family, is not given just like that, is hard work. Maybe so that every reward we get from it can be heartfelt and celebrated, and so that when life whispers.... we´ll be able to listen to it!
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Ale´s been our little artist since she was about one year old, and thankfully she still amazes us with how good she is at capturing life through her eyes! And for me as a mom is so rewarding when I see her just fly away in one of her paintings, and just see how she is able to stop the world around her and just be happy. And so my tween wholately isn´t very willing to get in front of my camera, proudly let me take a picture of her latest painting... while I just took a picture of her beautiful smile!
I wasn´t planning on giving Ari a haircut, but I just walked past a children´s hair salon and decided to go in! This time she didn´t cry! So I would say that was random.. and cute!
Ale´s English teacher at school is having her birthday today, so yesterday we made this beautiful cake to surprise her at school today! I think they should get an A after this!!! haha
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Life and motherhood.... definitely not always easy or pink. We have our days... our moments. This weekend was one of those ¨moments¨ were it was hard to see the glory.
Caracas has the perfect weather.... so perfect that is something that we don´t even talk about, we don´t need AC, our windows are always open.. lately people use AC in their bedrooms, but is really not necessary. It´s sunny and breezy, weather is just un-existing. We dress how we want to, long sleeves or short sleeves is the same... shorts or pants.... but there are the days that it slightly changes and is a little hotter.... and when this happens.... well, I get hot! haha.... like bad mood hot! If you add to the warmer weather Ari being ¨two¨, Emi´s time of year were she starts to struggle with anxiety, and Ale being as teenager as can be.... well, it doesn´t add up to a perfect weekend.
Still, I know that in between these moments... there is so much good. We just need to breath in and not let how tired we are, or how frustrated we feel to distract us from the gloriousness of life. Because this much I know: glory and magic live in the ordinary, we don´t have to wait for big special moments to have it. Is there all along.
And then right there, in the midst of a pretty hot Sunday, when I felt stressed, and overwhelmed... I decided to still make a good day by night time, and create memories.... We are mothers, we have superpowers we don´t even realize we do... we can change a bad day into a glorious one... we are moms. And that is how this Sunday, turned out a pretty cool one!
We turned our fountain into a cool shower!
Emi taught me how to embrace every single drop of cool water
I turned our ornamental fountain into a water park!
And with a fresher take on our day, we went for lunch at my sister´s and of course... family always makes everyone happy!
And so with that... a pretty hot Sunday turned into a very pink Monday morning!
Hope you all have a glorious week!
I was sent this prayer the other day.. it really touched my heart and brought tears to my eyes... for once you have one child I think you have them all. I believe this prayer was said by Pope Francis but really I couldn´t find it online and translate it myself. Anyways is beautiful and I would like to share it with you!
I want to pray for the children that leave everything they touch full of chocolate,
for the ones that jump in puddles and ruin their new pants, for the ones that eat candy before their meal and for the ones that never find their shoes in the morning...
I want to pray for the children that look at photographers behind metal fences, and for the ones that have never walked with a new pair of shoes, for the ones that have never played in enchanted places, and that have been born in places where we would never go, and where they will probably die.
I want to pray for the children that give us sticky sugary kisses, and flowers. For the ones that sleep with their puppies...for the ones that want to bury their goldfish, and for the children that hug us tightly. For the ones that often forget their lunch money. I want to pray for the children that splatter tooth paste all over the sink, and the ones that look with wonder at their father when he is shaving, and their mom putting make up on.
I also want to pray for the children who have never had dessert, that don´t have a favorite blanket to take everywhere, for the children that see their parents suffer, and for the ones that approach us at traffic lights with wanting eyes asking for money. For the children that don´t have bathrooms to take showers in, and whose pictures appear at police stations and not at their father´s desk. I want to pray for the children whose nightmares happen at daylight, eat whatever they find, and sleep covered by newspapers and not by blankets. For the children that have never been to the dentist, that have never been spoiled by anyone, that wake up hungry and have nowhere to go.
I want to pray for the children that like to be held, and for the children that have to be held. For the ones that give up and for the ones that keep fighting, for the children that don´t find a hand to hold on to.
For all these children Lord, I want to pray today, because they are all treasures, because they all give us love and shape our lives, because they give us a reason to live, because they make us want to build a better world, a fair world.
I pray for all these children and the ones that will be born, for they are our hope, our reward for our life´s work, our dreams come true, our immortality.. and the proof that God still believes in us.
For all the children of the world, may they all be blessed with love and happiness.
Hi! my name is Carolina Perisse de Rico, I am a stay at home architect with the biggest project ever... my girls! The oldest is 16, then I have an 14 year old, and my miracle baby who is 6. Glad you are here, hope you stay a while!
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