While in most parts of the world school is already out, we still have about three more weeks to go... and I would say this is the hardest month of the school year. We are all tired, in fact, I am exhausted, there is a lot of drama going around with all the sports competitions, final exams, and end of year plays... our schedule seem to run wild with a million extra things to do, and by the time the girls are all tucked in at night, my battery lasts like one more minute and am off. But then again, as tiresome as it is, it is the time of the year were we see all our effort smiling back at us with a proud smile of your daughter receiving a medal, or her eyes reaching not wanting to reach yours if she didn´t win, and that hug when she does give in and wants to hug you and not let go... or Emi´s standing up high tall and beautiful dressed as a bailaora, believing that all dreams can and maybe will come true!
Yesterday was Emi´s final dress rehearsal before the real thing... and they had a photoshoot so that the day of the play that stress is over. Is a good thing that Emi´s flamenco teacher knows am the mom with the camera and the blog, and let me sneak in behind the real photographer!!! I was able to take some pretty great shots but because I was running late and with mi little Ari on tug, I left the camera in the car, so I did my best with my iphone...
This last shot is the cutest... here is my baby, always there, observing, watching closely, listening.. learning, and I am sure dreaming!
Hope you all have a great weekend, and remember to never stop dreaming!
On the next to last post ¨life 101¨ I talked about how life was not really about winning, how life is hard and a lot of times unfair, and how in some way I was happy that my girls, specially Alessia, was (as much as it hurts) learning that so very important lesson by loosing at her last gymnastics competition.
After Ale´s gymnastics competition Emi had her turn in the field, unfortunately this time was not her day either. This year she is the youngest in her category having girls up to two years older than her, so in days where a lot of schools are competing there is a good chance that she´ll have it rough! The thing is that for Emi, winning is not an issue, she is really happy by just being there and giving her best shot, her all, everytime, everyday, at anything she does!
As I always say... my daughter.. my teacher! Emi with her sweet and brave way is a life lesson all by its own...
On Friday, Ale competed again.. we were nervous, and as much as I said that it wasn´t all about winning, that we don´t always get what we want, or what we deserve, well Ale...she needs to win, she is like that! So not wining this time would have been a pretty big deal for her. Thankfully... she did great!!!!! And I think that maybe more than happy I was relived, I didn´t want to go over life 101 with her again! haha And she was happy... over the moon proud and happy!
Friends do definitely make winning even better!
And then of course there is Ari, always there, my willing companion, my not so very silent witness of all the miles driven, of all the laughs in the car, the ups and the downs of having big sisters, always smiling and singing probably unaware of any big event, because for her everything is equally exciting. This little one, doesn´t care about winning or loosing, her love and awe for her sisters is completely unconditional she doesn´t know the difference between first or last place, she just knows how good it feels to have a family that feels, that sings, that dances, that cries.... a family with two sisters that just make her laugh!
Flowers and little girls... what is it with this mix that melts my heart and makes me wanna dance??? Whatever it is, having flowers in the house makes the week feel special, it gives it like a festive feel which I love, because if is true that life IS a special occasion, why not dress for it?
Today is linky time at Wednesday around the world, so please go ahead and share what you are up to in your corner of the world, and don´t forget to make new friends and spread some love!
This weekend was Ale´s 2nd gymnastics competition this year. The first, she did great and won two silver medals, one bronze and her team won gold all around! Yeap, that is pretty great! and it sure makes for a great weekend, and a reason to celebrate... ¨life is good, is easy and fun!¨ But then life comes around and pitches a curved ball.... and this time Ale fell off the beam which is where she does best, after that, she got really nervous and lost her concentration, which made her land terrible in her floor routine, after that.. it was like a snowball getting bigger and bigger. It was so hard seeing her hold back her tears through out the whole thing, I just wanted to go hold her and protect her, just get my little girl and come home and rock her to sleep. When it was over, she cried and cired... and cried, she was mad, she was frustrated, she was angry... I tried to calm her down a million ways, until I realized that maybe loosing was the medal we all as a family had to earn, the medal of standing back up, and not letting a bad day ruin a whole year of excitement, fun and friends. And learning that a medal does not define us, what defines us is something much greater, more sublime, shinier, but we don´t wear it around our necks as a prize, is something we work for our entire lives.
Life is not about winning, life is not perfect, we all know there will be times when even though we deserve something we will not get it. Life is not fair either, it is not easy, and the sooner they understand this the better for them! The secret is to celebrate life, the happy moments, the giggles with your friends, the nights with your family, the little things... not the medals! I don´t want them to value themselves for winning, but by the size of their heart, and for the smile they put on the people around them. That´s whats important, that is what matters when the sun comes down.
For this, the only thing that I as a mom will strive for, is to raise three women who are exceptional at heart, my hope for them is in their spirit, in their character, in their hearts. This is where I want them to be the best at, exceptional... amazing! I want them to strive to achieve their dreams, which ever dream that is, I want them to put their heart and soul into being good, kind, happy and brave girls, I want them to love with all their might and I want them to be loved. And then I want them to know that in my heart they are by far the most perfect beautiful girls that I always dreamed of!
So Ale, you just learned one great life lesson... keep smiling baby you are doing great!
As for me... my shiniest medal, the one I strive to earn every single second of every single day... is the sparkle in their eyes.... this sparkle, this twinkle in their eyes, only this I ask of God...
Oh... and next competition is this Friday! so pray please!!!! haha
This past week was Emi´s first track and field competition. Emi is a fast runner.. but her mind is also always running fast, and with that comes a lot of anxiety. I always mention Emi being anxious but never really talk about it here. Emi is my mini me around the house, if you want to know anything about this household, she will probably know the answer... the thing is that she is only ten, and I think that maybe she shouldn´t worry so much about everything. Emi smile is her hallmark, her sweetness defines her in so many levels, but what you don´t see behind her caring self is that she struggles with anxiety... somedays more than others, sometimes not at all, sometimes is clear what she is nervours about, yet sometimes she doesn´t know what is making her feel that way. Not a lot of people notice it, but she is my child, and I know that look in her eyes that makes me equally anxious because I can not help her stop worrying, and I know she is struggling. This... is the most difficult part, not being able to really help her.
On Thursday, well it was clear she was nervous about competing, but she was able to control herself, she breathed, drank sips at a time of Gatorade, prayed, gave me a kiss... looked into my eyes for reassurance and competed.. To me, seeing her run like the wind was a gasp of fresh air when you feel like you cannot breath anymore, and not because I wanted her to win first place, I was beyond happy because I knew that every step she took was proving her how amazing she is, and the power she has within herself to do anything she sets her mind to. And not because she is fast, really I could care less how fast she is, but because she overcame her fears, she was crushing whatever it was that was making her nervous, and that victory right there, well it felt soooo good!
Yeap... Two medals that day one, gold for 100 meters, and her team won gold in relay..... plus that smile, and the feeling of achievement!!! and my smile... which you can´t see, and my hidden teary eyes!
Among many things I pray for patience, faith, and love.... and with that, any sky will look as the sky that day!
Have a great week!
Hi! my name is Carolina Perisse de Rico, I am a stay at home architect with the biggest project ever... my girls! The oldest is 16, then I have an 14 year old, and my miracle baby who is 6. Glad you are here, hope you stay a while!
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